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Confidence Issue: Stephanie Bellamy – Personal Stylist NZ & UK

Who is Stephanie Bellamy?  

A personal stylist on the wrong side of her 20’s, she lives in Auckland and works between the UK and New Zealand. She likes to think she’s got her shit together, she loves a wine and a good laugh.

What made you want to be involved in the fashion world?

For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been fashion and clothing obsessed. I used to knit and sew with my nana when I was little – making clothes for myself and my Barbies. I was never sure exactly what I wanted to do within the fashion realm, as it is so vast, but I knew after my first year at university that I was on the right path towards finding my dream job.

Did having confidence in yourself play a big role in becoming a successful international personal stylist?

Hugely, I only completed my personal styling diploma just over a year ago and I didn’t feel “ready” to dive straight into a business, however, I knew that I was as ready as I will ever be. Everytime I felt an ounce of self-doubt, I would remember back to university, we had Karen Walker do a Q&A with us, she said that if you want to be a designer, you have to call yourself a designer from day 1. I applied this level of confidence and self-assertiveness to starting my business, then took the bull by the horns and haven’t looked back.

What does confidence mean to you and how do you approach this in your everyday life?

Confidence to me, is having a solid understanding of who you are; why you do the things you do, your values, your priorities, your strengths and weaknesses, knowing your limits and then allowing yourself to make mistakes and grow from that. If we have a solid grasp on who we are, then no one else can tell us any different. I think that is the foundation of obtaining self-worth and confidence.

What empowers you as a woman? 

My job, being a personal stylist is so empowering in itself – the essence of my brand is not superficial, yes I can help my clients to build an incredible wardrobe, but what is at the forefront of my goals with each client is to help them to feel fabulous and to discover a whole new level of confidence for themselves.

What knocks your confidence down and how do you deal with that? 

We all have invalidating experiences throughout life, some that knock us around endlessly. Over time and many, many invalidating experiences I have finally learnt that every time we have a negative experience we can take something away from it. For me, if I analyse the way in which I dealt with the experience I will always know how to better deal with it next time – and it’s always paid off!

How has confidence helped you with to step out of your comfort zone, especially considering you work between NZ and the UK? 

If I didn’t feel confident and secure within myself, I would never have been able to establish my business across both NZ and the UK. Knowing that I’m capable, I’m skilled, I’m passionate and I’m determined drove the confidence within that helped me get to where I am today and where I want to be tomorrow.

What advice would you give our customers about self confidence and believing in themselves, embracing themselves for who they really are?

Don’t change yourself to fit the mould, discover yourself and embrace it. Surround yourself with like minded people that you enjoy being around, stop wasting energy on negative people that bring you down or emotionally drain you. Always strive to be the best possible version of you.

What piece of clothing makes you feel confident to take on the world? 

A leather jacket – something about it says “move out of the way, bad ass coming through” plus the versatility and durability of a leather jacket totally validates the cost of one!

Do you think your style and the way you dress has evolved as you have become more confident within yourself?

Without a doubt! That’s why I love my job and it’s exactly why I do what I do.

What women inspire you? 

All mothers inspire me, all business women inspire me, any woman that has gone through a difficult period in her life and has come out the other side stronger inspires me. Women who empower other women inspire me.

What’s your favourite piece out of The Borrowed Collective and why?

The Associates Mini dress, it’s super versatile and fits like a glove! I recently featured this dress in a blog post where I talk about how to best style a summery dress in the colder months.

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Confidence Issue: Tailor Skincare – Sara Quilter

Sara Quilter is the mastermind behind Tailor Skincare, a range of natural skincare “tailored” to fit and offer endless benefits to any skin type. Not only does it feel amazing on your skin, but offers to nourish the skin from the inside & out. And who doesn’t feel more confident when their skin feels beautiful? We interviewed Sara this week on her road to becoming the successful entrepreneur she is today, who started from her Fathers shed in Wellington with a Kenwood Cake Mixer & rubber spatula.

Who is Sara Quilter? 

Who am I? I wear so many hats, I’m a dog mum who loves yoga, bad 90’s hits and singing in the car. I’m also a passionate, driven, hard working entrepreneur. I LOVE natural skincare and thrive on helping my customers build their confidence by restoring their skin health.

What does confidence mean to you?

When we have the confidence to be our authentic selves. This to me is true beauty.

What empowers you as a woman?

I’m also empowered by my regular mindfulness practice. It’s not daily but I do practice often. Just like happiness, confidence is a choice. It may appear to come easier to some, but you have the choice to be confident or not.

What knocks your confidence down and how do you deal with that?

Honestly, when I have a big fat breakout on my face. Yes, I still breakout and my skin is not perfect all the time. My confidence get’s knocked back but I tell myself I’m breaking out for a reason. It may be something internal (dietary) or stress. So I take some me time, which usually involves a cup of tea, some yoga, a Tailor Polish Mask or some sort of trashy TV show and relax.

How has confidence helped with the start and running of Tailor Skincare?
Interesting, because at first I didn’t have the confidence to go out and pitch to shop owners face to face so I hid behind Facebook and began my business online. Over the last 5 years I’ve really worked on my confidence and now I have no issue chatting with anyone or to any group size. To me confidence is something which can be boosted by the people you’re with, the look of your skin and the posture you hold. However if you don’t practice it, just like any skill, it won’t develop. So I’d say I haven’t always been confident, it’s something I’ve chosen to practice over and over again because it’s important to me.

What advice would you give our customers about self confidence and believing in themselves?

Confidence does not happen over night. It’s something you choose to practice and eventually your confidence will grow and develop. I also believe confidence is not something which is measurable during times of success. True confidence is measured by how gracefully you fail and pick yourself back up and try again with the same confidence in yourself. Because you’re going to fail – a lot! And thats okay because it’s just one more failure before you win! But if you don’t have the confidence to keep going you’re not going to get there. So choose to be confident and practice it as you would any other skill.

What piece of clothing makes you feel confident to take on the world?

Honestly….black yoga pants. If I’m not comfortable at work, I don’t get anything done. I wear yoga pants every single day and take on the world one task at a time. That said I LOVE slipping into a cute cocktail dress and getting my hair done. Currently obsessed with this  and this.

What women inspire you?

My mum (of course) because she’s been my biggest supporter. Marie Forleo – LOVE Marie TV, Sophia Amoruso the ultimate #girlboss and my friend Emily Ghallager – who’s a complete rockstar and runs her own biz called Conscious Boss Clique.

What’s your favourite piece out of The Borrowed Collective and why?

It has to be this one because I LOVE it, but wouldn’t think to invest in purchasing something like this. I’d want to borrow it for a special occasion like a product launch or awards ceremony. I think that’s what’s great about the Borrowed Collective, it gives you the wardrobe of your dreams without the price tag.

Thanks so much Sara! Photos credit to: