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Confidence Issue: Jaspreet Bola – Pickitfence

Pickitfence is a NZ cool girl blog that if you haven’t heard of, you need to go stalking ASAP. As soon as we saw her showing her latest purchases in one of her Insta Stories we were HOOKED. Law student by day, fashion stalker by night – this down to earth chick has everything covered from sorting your work wear outfit, to giving you inspiration to restyle that pretty dress as a kick ass top and pant combo. More than anything Jas makes us rethink things and change our perspective – not just on the different ways to wear black pants. 

Who is Pickitfence? 

Pickitfence is not so much a person, as it is a concept (that I made up). The name of my blog Pickitfence comes from my childhood home that always had a picket fence and has always been a place of comfort, safety and is symbolic of my happy place. I want my readers to take on the Pickitfence mentality and that is to always strive to reach your happy place, your goals, or whatever it maybe that makes you happy.

What made you want to be involved in law with the fashion world on the side?

I travelled to India when I was about 5 years old and immediately I knew I lived a very privileged life back home in New Zealand. From that point on I always wanted to help people. My law degree is so broad and I’m really starting to learn all the different things I can do with it, it’s really quite exciting. Fashion is again heavily intertwined with my upbringing. My Nan is a seamstress and I’ve been designing and styling clothes all my life. My blog has allowed me to take my love of fashion and use it to inspire confidence within others, just another way I hope I can help people.

Did having confidence in yourself play a big role in becoming a successful fashion blogger?

It definitely took an initial bit of confidence to kick off my blog and just have the courage to bite the bullet and put my creativity out into the world. But ultimately, the blogging journey itself has gradually enhanced my confidence. I have met so many new people, I have collaborated with amazing brands and gained a wealth of fashion knowledge, all of which has been incredibly valuable in improving my self-confidence. I do not believe that we have to start off as perfectly confident people, I think we just have to take the first step and naturally we just evolve and get better, and learn to perfect our craft and in turn that confidence will come.

What does confidence mean to you and how do you approach this in your everyday life?

I have learnt the hard way just how important confidence is because I’m not a naturally confident person. I have missed a lot of opportunities by simply not being confident enough. But if you just start saying yes to things and dive in and take risks, I do believe they pay off and the more opportunities you say yes to and the more risks you take, confidence organically grows. Whether it’s in fashion, where it takes a certain level of confidence to pull off a querky outfit, or at law school where speaking up is imperative to being successful, the more I say yes to things and experience new things, my confidence has just grown. It’s about creating this positive-confidence-enchancing-cycle for yourself.

What empowers you as a woman? 

Other successful women. It’s absolutely fundamental that we as woman recognise that if another female is successful, that does not mean that there is less for us. There is plenty to go around and room for us all, and it’s important to view the success of our fellow sisters as motivating and inspiring factors. Having this perspective has allowed me to be empowered by all the amazing woman around me.

What knocks your confidence down and how do you deal with that? 

As someone who is quite a perfectionist, rejection is something that really knocks down my confidence. I always strive to put my best foot forward and when this is not good enough, it’s quite the blow. To overcome this I always reflect on the situation and analyse what I could have done better and how I can improve that for the future. We are all human and being self aware and recognising my weaknesses allows me to get over the situation.

What advice would you give our customers about self confidence and believing in themselves, embracing themselves for who they really are?

I believe that the closer we get to the true essence of who we are, the more confident and happy we will be. I don’t think this is by any means easy, but having new experiences whether that’s meeting new people, a new job or travel is imperative to this self growth and recognition. It is through these experiences we come to realise who we truly are, what we want from life and what our goals are. Confidence is both a starting point and an element that is intertwined throughout this self-evolving process. I think age is also a factor, we may think we know it all right now but with age comes confidence too, so don’t rush the process.

What piece of clothing makes you feel confident to take on the world? 

A blazer! It’s definitely having its trend moment right now, but I’ve been wearing blazers since high school (and no we did not have a uniform). A good blazer can take you anywhere, and can flatter any and every body shape. It’s a staple and makes me feel my best.

 Do you think your style and the way you dress has evolved as you have become more confident within yourself?

Absolutely. Fashion was always a way for me to feel beautiful and more confident. As my confidence has grown I have been open to so many more silhouettes I may not have tried earlier on. For example, instead of only wearing what is conventionally considered flattering for my body shape, I am now confident enough to just wear what ever I love the look and feel of!

What women inspire you? 

Aimee Song from the blog Song of Style is a huge inspiration for me. She is not perfect but she is unapologetically herself and that makes her perfect to me. I have followed her for over six years now and I have seen her evolve from a fashion icon into an activist in her own right and I really respect that about her.

What is your favourite piece out of The Borrowed Collective and why?

My favourite piece from The Borrowed Collective is the Talulah Immediacy Maxi in blood orange, it’s a super flattering cut and the colour would pop on any skin tone. I also love the Rebecca Vallance Midi Dress – wow that is one stunning number!

You can find the gorgeous Jas at Pickitfence on her Instagram or on Youtube! xx

 

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Confidence Issue: Kendra Alexandra – Stolen Inspiration

We’ve been following Kendra since way back in the day when Tumblr was the Instagram of social media. Since starting her blog  Stolen Inspiration at 15, Kendra has achieved huge success and worked along side many incredible brands.  This self taught photographer/girlboss chats to us about having confidence within yourself, inner strength and being your own best friend.

Who is Kendra Alexandra?  

A very indecisive fashion obsessed woman that has no idea where she will end up living tomorrow.

What made you want to be involved in the fashion world?

I actually kind of fell into it. When I was 15 I had a friend that shared my love of fashion and she introduced me to the world of fashion blogging. We both started our blogs then and I have had mine ever since. I never thought it would give me such a foot in the door because at 15 it was only ever a hobby – what’s come from it I could have never imagined!

Did having confidence in yourself play a big role in becoming a successful fashion blogger?


Yes, and no. Like I said I started my blog at 15 which was a really awkward time in my life when I was trying to navigate high school and find my own sense of self. At this time, I really didn’t have much self confidence at all. My blog has grown with me though and in a way my blog has helped me build self confidence over the years – especially since it’s thrown me into so many different situations that I could never have imagined happening. In return, my blog developed and grew because of it.

What does confidence mean to you and how do you approach this in your everyday life?

Confidence to me is having a really good sense of self and self-worth. It’s knowing your limits and never budging on them. In my everyday life I just try to be kind to myself because at the end of the day you really do need to be your own best friend. I’ve taught myself to deal with criticism pretty well over the years so I never let people’s attitudes towards me or bad situations get me down because life’s just to short to let the bullshit affect you.

What empowers you as a woman? 

I love surrounding myself with great friends and family. There’s nothing more empowering than having a great support system and being inspired by those who are closest to you!

What knocks your confidence down and how do you deal with that? 

For me it’s definitely my own self doubt. I’m constantly second guessing the things I do and worrying that I’m not getting to where I want to be as quick as I’d like. On days like these I like to take a step back and remember that there’s more than one path to success and you can’t compare yourself to others because they’re completely different to you.

How has confidence helped you with to step out of your comfort zone, especially moving overseas? 

Travelling was a major step out of my comfort zone but I’m definitely so much more confident because of it. I think moving overseas by yourself really helps you appreciate how strong you are. There are so many situations I can look back on now and be proud of myself for dealing with them on my own without panicking, haha. I definitely think you gain the most from stepping out of your comfort zone – embrace it.

What advice would you give our customers about self confidence and believing in themselves, embracing themselves for who they really are?

Like I said before, you have to be your own best friend and partner in crime. If you don’t like how a certain situation makes you feel – change it. Even if that means cutting people out of your life, it WILL be worth it. Life isn’t going to wait around for you to find ‘the perfect person’ to travel with, or ‘the Instagram boyfriend’ to take photos for a blog you want to create; you really have to go out there and just do it yourself.

Push yourself out of your comfort zone as often as possible. And, forgive yourself when you make mistakes because you aren’t the sum of your mistakes. You are a new person everyday – different from a year ago or even yesterday. Never feel like you have to be stuck in the position you are right now because you can change it at any moment. There’s a whole heap of random advice for you, haha.

What piece of clothing makes you feel confident to take on the world? 

Sometimes that’s a pretty dress, or sometimes it’s work out gear. Basically, anything I feel comfortable in otherwise I’ll just be self-conscious the whole time.

Do you think your style and the way you dress has evolved as you have become more confident within yourself?

Yes for sure! I remember back in my university days I was so self-conscious all the time and I ended up with the strangest mix of clothing ever because I was trying to hide certain parts of my body. Now I just embrace what I know I like and don’t care what others think, which allows me to take more wardrobe risks.

What women inspire you? 

Mostly my friends and family. It’s so inspiring to hear real life stories about the people you love. You quickly realise that no one ever has an easy ride through life, but it’s incredible to find out what they’ve come through. My Mum, for example, lived in the forest in Papua New Guinea for seven years when she was my age – that’s such a crazy contrast to my life now and so daring!

What’s your favourite piece out of The Borrowed Collective and why?

Sir The Label Ischia Mini Dress – I’ve been thinking about buying it since it came out, it’s so cute for Summer!