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Confidence Issue: Stephanie Bellamy – Personal Stylist NZ & UK

Who is Stephanie Bellamy?  

A personal stylist on the wrong side of her 20’s, she lives in Auckland and works between the UK and New Zealand. She likes to think she’s got her shit together, she loves a wine and a good laugh.

What made you want to be involved in the fashion world?

For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been fashion and clothing obsessed. I used to knit and sew with my nana when I was little – making clothes for myself and my Barbies. I was never sure exactly what I wanted to do within the fashion realm, as it is so vast, but I knew after my first year at university that I was on the right path towards finding my dream job.

Did having confidence in yourself play a big role in becoming a successful international personal stylist?

Hugely, I only completed my personal styling diploma just over a year ago and I didn’t feel “ready” to dive straight into a business, however, I knew that I was as ready as I will ever be. Everytime I felt an ounce of self-doubt, I would remember back to university, we had Karen Walker do a Q&A with us, she said that if you want to be a designer, you have to call yourself a designer from day 1. I applied this level of confidence and self-assertiveness to starting my business, then took the bull by the horns and haven’t looked back.

What does confidence mean to you and how do you approach this in your everyday life?

Confidence to me, is having a solid understanding of who you are; why you do the things you do, your values, your priorities, your strengths and weaknesses, knowing your limits and then allowing yourself to make mistakes and grow from that. If we have a solid grasp on who we are, then no one else can tell us any different. I think that is the foundation of obtaining self-worth and confidence.

What empowers you as a woman? 

My job, being a personal stylist is so empowering in itself – the essence of my brand is not superficial, yes I can help my clients to build an incredible wardrobe, but what is at the forefront of my goals with each client is to help them to feel fabulous and to discover a whole new level of confidence for themselves.

What knocks your confidence down and how do you deal with that? 

We all have invalidating experiences throughout life, some that knock us around endlessly. Over time and many, many invalidating experiences I have finally learnt that every time we have a negative experience we can take something away from it. For me, if I analyse the way in which I dealt with the experience I will always know how to better deal with it next time – and it’s always paid off!

How has confidence helped you with to step out of your comfort zone, especially considering you work between NZ and the UK? 

If I didn’t feel confident and secure within myself, I would never have been able to establish my business across both NZ and the UK. Knowing that I’m capable, I’m skilled, I’m passionate and I’m determined drove the confidence within that helped me get to where I am today and where I want to be tomorrow.

What advice would you give our customers about self confidence and believing in themselves, embracing themselves for who they really are?

Don’t change yourself to fit the mould, discover yourself and embrace it. Surround yourself with like minded people that you enjoy being around, stop wasting energy on negative people that bring you down or emotionally drain you. Always strive to be the best possible version of you.

What piece of clothing makes you feel confident to take on the world? 

A leather jacket – something about it says “move out of the way, bad ass coming through” plus the versatility and durability of a leather jacket totally validates the cost of one!

Do you think your style and the way you dress has evolved as you have become more confident within yourself?

Without a doubt! That’s why I love my job and it’s exactly why I do what I do.

What women inspire you? 

All mothers inspire me, all business women inspire me, any woman that has gone through a difficult period in her life and has come out the other side stronger inspires me. Women who empower other women inspire me.

What’s your favourite piece out of The Borrowed Collective and why?

The Associates Mini dress, it’s super versatile and fits like a glove! I recently featured this dress in a blog post where I talk about how to best style a summery dress in the colder months.

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Confidence Issue: Simone Anderson – Journey To Health

We’ve been following Simone since she first appeared on the Tyra Banks Show. Her journey has inspired so many women in New Zealand and globally. This week we interview Simone on what makes her so confident and how we can all inject a little bit more self love into our lives.

Who is Simone Anderson?

I truly am your every day kiwi chick, just wanting to make a difference in the world. I began quite selfishly sharing my 92kg weight loss journey online to keep myself accountable. Before long my social pages grew quite a large following (now reaching nearly 600,000 people) and have now become my full time job. I help inspire others daily by being raw and truthful, sharing everything from workouts, beauty routines to recipes and outfit posts. Showing people that a simple mindset change can lead you to a live you only dreamed of.

What made you want to begin your journey to health?

It was a huge build of lots of tiny things, some as simple as being to tired to bring the bin up the driveway that made me realise I was really only living a half life and something had to change. I go into far my detail about my switch and what lead to me wanting to want changes in my book “Journey to Health”

Did having confidence in yourself play a big role in initially sharing your journey online?

More than anything! From the get go this confidence made me believe in myself and truly know I was capable of anything I set my mind to.

What does confidence mean to you and how do you approach this in your everyday life?

For me confidence is knowing what I believe in, knowing what I stand for and knowing what message I have to share. Its realising that no matter what anyone else thinks or says that I know I am making even a small difference in this world!

What empowers you as a woman?

For me I feel empowered when I realise that I don’t have to live anyone else’s life or follow anyone else’s rules for how they wish me to life. This is my life and realising I have to power to do and achieve what ever I set my mind to is empowering.

What knocks your confidence down and how do you deal with that?

I used to find that trolls and negative comments would really knock my confidence, I would find myself thinking and often crying about these comments or words for days. Then I had a good long think about it and realised that these people must be really struggling in themselves to find the need to be nasty to someone they don’t know online. I then started to feel sorry for these people and always meet their negative comments with kind words – kindness ALWAYS wins.

After your last surgery you had a lot of trolls that you chose to screencap and share with your followers, exposing not only the people who sent you these messages but also the awful comments you sometimes receive. Do you have any advice on how to deal with negative comments and not let it effect you?

Same as above!

What advice would you give our customers about self confidence and believing in themselves, embracing themselves for who they really are?

That difference and uniqueness is what makes this world amazing, the minute we stop trying to be like everyone else and embrace ourselves “flaws” and all is the minute we realise how truly amazing we really are.

What piece of clothing makes you feel confident to take on the world?

A matching set of bra and undies always makes me feel super sexy and empowered. I love that no one else can see it, so its purely for me! How bloody cool is that!

Do you think your style and the way you dress has evolved as you have become more confident within yourself?

I have always loved fashion, clothes and accessories. I just have more options to play with and definitely have more styles that suit me so I guess this does make you more confident. I love being able to walk into any shop and know I will fit / find something that will suit me. Before I literally had one shop in Auckland I could go to!

What women inspire you?

There are so many I don’t even know where to begin. But I love woman killing it in my own backyard, I love supporting kiwi woman smashing their dreams! Girls like Riley from Healthchick101, Zoe from blessed In Doubles, Makaia Carr, Julia and Libby, Jessica Quinn & Donielle Brooke just to name a few – these ladies all shine in their own unique way and all make the world a better place! Sharing there experiences and highs and lows with the world, its truly humbling seeing them smashing their goals and dreams!

What’s your favourite piece out of The Borrowed Collective and why?

The Tower of Power. Its sexy, beautiful and feminine!

 

 

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