Confidence Issue: Stephanie Bellamy – Personal Stylist NZ & UK
Who is Stephanie Bellamy?
A personal stylist on the wrong side of her 20’s, she lives in Auckland and works between the UK and New Zealand. She likes to think she’s got her shit together, she loves a wine and a good laugh.
What made you want to be involved in the fashion world?
For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been fashion and clothing obsessed. I used to knit and sew with my nana when I was little – making clothes for myself and my Barbies. I was never sure exactly what I wanted to do within the fashion realm, as it is so vast, but I knew after my first year at university that I was on the right path towards finding my dream job.
Did having confidence in yourself play a big role in becoming a successful international personal stylist?
Hugely, I only completed my personal styling diploma just over a year ago and I didn’t feel “ready” to dive straight into a business, however, I knew that I was as ready as I will ever be. Everytime I felt an ounce of self-doubt, I would remember back to university, we had Karen Walker do a Q&A with us, she said that if you want to be a designer, you have to call yourself a designer from day 1. I applied this level of confidence and self-assertiveness to starting my business, then took the bull by the horns and haven’t looked back.
What does confidence mean to you and how do you approach this in your everyday life?
Confidence to me, is having a solid understanding of who you are; why you do the things you do, your values, your priorities, your strengths and weaknesses, knowing your limits and then allowing yourself to make mistakes and grow from that. If we have a solid grasp on who we are, then no one else can tell us any different. I think that is the foundation of obtaining self-worth and confidence.
What empowers you as a woman?
My job, being a personal stylist is so empowering in itself – the essence of my brand is not superficial, yes I can help my clients to build an incredible wardrobe, but what is at the forefront of my goals with each client is to help them to feel fabulous and to discover a whole new level of confidence for themselves.
What knocks your confidence down and how do you deal with that?
We all have invalidating experiences throughout life, some that knock us around endlessly. Over time and many, many invalidating experiences I have finally learnt that every time we have a negative experience we can take something away from it. For me, if I analyse the way in which I dealt with the experience I will always know how to better deal with it next time – and it’s always paid off!
How has confidence helped you with to step out of your comfort zone, especially considering you work between NZ and the UK?
If I didn’t feel confident and secure within myself, I would never have been able to establish my business across both NZ and the UK. Knowing that I’m capable, I’m skilled, I’m passionate and I’m determined drove the confidence within that helped me get to where I am today and where I want to be tomorrow.
What advice would you give our customers about self confidence and believing in themselves, embracing themselves for who they really are?
Don’t change yourself to fit the mould, discover yourself and embrace it. Surround yourself with like minded people that you enjoy being around, stop wasting energy on negative people that bring you down or emotionally drain you. Always strive to be the best possible version of you.
What piece of clothing makes you feel confident to take on the world?
A leather jacket – something about it says “move out of the way, bad ass coming through” plus the versatility and durability of a leather jacket totally validates the cost of one!
Do you think your style and the way you dress has evolved as you have become more confident within yourself?
Without a doubt! That’s why I love my job and it’s exactly why I do what I do.
What women inspire you?
All mothers inspire me, all business women inspire me, any woman that has gone through a difficult period in her life and has come out the other side stronger inspires me. Women who empower other women inspire me.
What’s your favourite piece out of The Borrowed Collective and why?
The Associates Mini dress, it’s super versatile and fits like a glove! I recently featured this dress in a blog post where I talk about how to best style a summery dress in the colder months.