Since TBC was still Something Borrowed, Lucy O’Connor aka Monday Hustle came in to my life. She serves not as just a friend and super amazing support system, but as an inspiration and a good pick me up every Monday morning. Her hilarious and honest posts are too relatable at times, but also just what every girl hustler needs. This chick is the definition of hustle and bravery and we were lucky enough to get a little inside her head this week on what confidence means to her.

Who are you?

 

I’m Lucy, the blogger behind Monday Hustle! In July 2015, I quit my solid 9-5 in favour of.. Well, nothing!! But something told me I had to make a commitment and start to actively search for what it was that set my soul on fire. Ever since, I’ve been trying to gain experience in areas I feel passionate about, meaning that it’s been a tough 18 months of financial insecurity and lots of rejection!! However, there is no way I’d change any thing, and I finally feel like through Monday Hustle, I’ve been able to find my calling.
Monday Hustle is a space where people can feel confident in knowing they are capable of tackling life’s challenges, whatever might come at them next. I back you to back yourself, and soon, I’ll be offering life coaching services so I can help people learn from my experiences of living the Hustle at a more personal level.
PLUS, my friend Cam and I are going into business together on a second project which is super exciting! Even though my 2017 has been a roller-coaster ride due to a snapped Achilles.. I still get the feeling it’s gonna be an epic year.
What does confidence mean to you?
Confidence is a state of mind. It’s a work in progress. It’s first letting go of the fact that you can’t control everything, second valuing your worth and third living in a way that stays true to who you are and what impact you want to have on the world. Confidence doesn’t have to mean dressing like a boss, working as a CEO or always feeling positive. It’s understanding that, much like happiness, you can’t always exist in a 100% confident state. You have to work at it, and build resilience to the things that knock that confidence down. It’s feeling like what you are working towards is a worthy thing, and trying to bring that fact to mind when the doubt comes creeping in.
What empowers you as a women?
What empowers me as a human is embracing every aspect of myself, mind body soul. It’s knowing that there is no other person like me that has existed ever. It’s enjoying all of my talents and my strengths, and working on my weaknesses where applicable. It’s knowing that life is cumulative, and that every experience exists to teach us something whether it’s good or bad. We can either learn from the negative, or we can berate ourselves, but I feel empowered in knowing fundamentally that I hold the key to choose which option I’ll take.
What knocks your confidence down and how do you deal with that?
 
SO MANY THINGS knock my confidence, but the main one at the moment is the devil that is comparison. Last December, I snapped my Achilles. Everything was going so well before that, and I felt really on track – but then everything literally came to a halt! There were several complications with the tendon, and I spent a few weeks in hospital, which meant I had to tap out of Monday Hustle for a while to focus completely on recovery. When I entered back into the game, it felt as if everyone else had streaked ahead of me and were enjoying great successes while I was still stuck on crutches and questioning my life purpose. Of course, once I slipped into that mindset, I lost myself in the comparative void and my productivity went out the window.
I dealt with it by acknowledging the fact that I had just been through a horrible ordeal, and realized that now more than even, I needed to be kind to myself. I stopped looking at other people’s social media for a while so I could regain the focus on what I was doing. I reminded myself that I am the only me that exists, and that I am the only one who can do what I do in a me way – and that in itself propelled me forward.
When we are comparing ourselves to others, we act out of fear and out of desperation instead of joy and passion, and thus we lose sight of our own end goal. At the end of the day, you can’t control what anyone else does – you can only control what you do, and how you treat yourself – so you may as well join in the celebration, high five people for the successful payoffs they earn and get on with working toward a milestone of your own!
How has confidence helped with your journey as a hustler?
 
Without confidence, I’d still be in a 9-5 sales role, possibly earning a sh*tload of cash, but still feeling gravely unhappy and unfulfilled. I think there is a myth that confidence is innate, and we associate confidence with things like public speaking and being extroverted. However, I think confidence is getting up in the morning. It’s getting out the door. It’s showing up every day, even when you don’t feel like it. The funny thing is, I still don’t feel confident with what I’m doing or where I’m going, even though from the outside it might seem like I have it all together (occasionally!)!! I’m sitting in my flat having just heard the news that I’ll be on crutches for five more weeks, it’s raining outside and I am craving a bag of chips which I don’t have and still I still have doubts as to whether what I am doing is valuable.
But, it’s only because of my journey as a hustler that I now understand that confidence is a byproduct of action, not the other way round. I wasn’t feeling confident when I quit my job. I wasn’t feeling confident when I published my first blog post. It’s rare that I feel confident showing up at an event!! But, the more you get out of your comfort zone, the more you feel confident in knowing that whatever the outcome, whether it’s the one you hoped for a the one you really didn’t want, you’ll be able to handle it and move forward a stronger person.
What advice would you give our customers about self confidence and believing in themselves to achieve their dreams as you did with Monday Hustle?
 

The only advice I can give to you is to make like Nike and just do it. As above, confidence is a byproduct of action, and it’s only by doing that we become more confident in knowing more about who we are and what we are capable of. It’s a beautifully terrifying thing indeed – but also strangely comforting, and extremely motivating because at the end of the day? If you never try – you never know. And what’s better than surprising yourself?

 

What piece of clothing makes you feel confident to take on the world?

 
Normally, block heels make me feel pretty badass. There’s something really grounding about hearing those blocks hit the floor as you walk towards a scary meeting, presentation or stage! The rhythm of your movement is soothing and reassuring, and the sound of your own feet moving you forward gives you literal and metaphorical momentum. It says, ‘I’m here doing this right now, and I’m gonna do it bloody well. Clip, clop.’ Have I gone too deep on this?!

Clothing wise, it would have to be my vintage leather biker jacket. That thing is impenetrable! It’s an extra layer of armour when all else fails.

 

What women inspire you?

 
Maya Angelou. Sophia Amoruso. Iris Apfel. Brené Brown. Oprah. Any woman who is embracing everything it means to be authentically themselves, despite what the rule books might say. Women who are using their platforms to do good, and who remain open and vulnerable along the way. I would like to think that they would be proud of Monday Hustle and might feel empowered by some of my posts, too!
Thanks Lucy you incredible thang! You can see her pictured below in our Kate Dress at the Awesome Hustle event xxx