Confidence Issue: Kendra Alexandra – Stolen Inspiration
We’ve been following Kendra since way back in the day when Tumblr was the Instagram of social media. Since starting her blog Stolen Inspiration at 15, Kendra has achieved huge success and worked along side many incredible brands. This self taught photographer/girlboss chats to us about having confidence within yourself, inner strength and being your own best friend.
Who is Kendra Alexandra?
A very indecisive fashion obsessed woman that has no idea where she will end up living tomorrow.
What made you want to be involved in the fashion world?
I actually kind of fell into it. When I was 15 I had a friend that shared my love of fashion and she introduced me to the world of fashion blogging. We both started our blogs then and I have had mine ever since. I never thought it would give me such a foot in the door because at 15 it was only ever a hobby – what’s come from it I could have never imagined!
Did having confidence in yourself play a big role in becoming a successful fashion blogger?
Yes, and no. Like I said I started my blog at 15 which was a really awkward time in my life when I was trying to navigate high school and find my own sense of self. At this time, I really didn’t have much self confidence at all. My blog has grown with me though and in a way my blog has helped me build self confidence over the years – especially since it’s thrown me into so many different situations that I could never have imagined happening. In return, my blog developed and grew because of it.
What does confidence mean to you and how do you approach this in your everyday life?
Confidence to me is having a really good sense of self and self-worth. It’s knowing your limits and never budging on them. In my everyday life I just try to be kind to myself because at the end of the day you really do need to be your own best friend. I’ve taught myself to deal with criticism pretty well over the years so I never let people’s attitudes towards me or bad situations get me down because life’s just to short to let the bullshit affect you.
What empowers you as a woman?
I love surrounding myself with great friends and family. There’s nothing more empowering than having a great support system and being inspired by those who are closest to you!
What knocks your confidence down and how do you deal with that?
For me it’s definitely my own self doubt. I’m constantly second guessing the things I do and worrying that I’m not getting to where I want to be as quick as I’d like. On days like these I like to take a step back and remember that there’s more than one path to success and you can’t compare yourself to others because they’re completely different to you.
How has confidence helped you with to step out of your comfort zone, especially moving overseas?
Travelling was a major step out of my comfort zone but I’m definitely so much more confident because of it. I think moving overseas by yourself really helps you appreciate how strong you are. There are so many situations I can look back on now and be proud of myself for dealing with them on my own without panicking, haha. I definitely think you gain the most from stepping out of your comfort zone – embrace it.
What advice would you give our customers about self confidence and believing in themselves, embracing themselves for who they really are?
Like I said before, you have to be your own best friend and partner in crime. If you don’t like how a certain situation makes you feel – change it. Even if that means cutting people out of your life, it WILL be worth it. Life isn’t going to wait around for you to find ‘the perfect person’ to travel with, or ‘the Instagram boyfriend’ to take photos for a blog you want to create; you really have to go out there and just do it yourself.
Push yourself out of your comfort zone as often as possible. And, forgive yourself when you make mistakes because you aren’t the sum of your mistakes. You are a new person everyday – different from a year ago or even yesterday. Never feel like you have to be stuck in the position you are right now because you can change it at any moment. There’s a whole heap of random advice for you, haha.
What piece of clothing makes you feel confident to take on the world?
Sometimes that’s a pretty dress, or sometimes it’s work out gear. Basically, anything I feel comfortable in otherwise I’ll just be self-conscious the whole time.
Do you think your style and the way you dress has evolved as you have become more confident within yourself?
Yes for sure! I remember back in my university days I was so self-conscious all the time and I ended up with the strangest mix of clothing ever because I was trying to hide certain parts of my body. Now I just embrace what I know I like and don’t care what others think, which allows me to take more wardrobe risks.
What women inspire you?
Mostly my friends and family. It’s so inspiring to hear real life stories about the people you love. You quickly realise that no one ever has an easy ride through life, but it’s incredible to find out what they’ve come through. My Mum, for example, lived in the forest in Papua New Guinea for seven years when she was my age – that’s such a crazy contrast to my life now and so daring!
What’s your favourite piece out of The Borrowed Collective and why?
Sir The Label Ischia Mini Dress – I’ve been thinking about buying it since it came out, it’s so cute for Summer!